Do looks really matter in life? Do good looking people have an advantage?

December 20, 2015 at 3:00 pm | Posted in Uncategorized | Leave a comment

Alicia Wang answers on Quora

I am a 16 year old girl. 2 years ago, I was not as attractive. It was not an opinion, it was a fact. I had crooked teeth, I weighed more and I didn’t care about makeup or spend hours on my appearance like the rest(I still don’t). And I had zero confidence. I was excluded by all my friends, and that may be due to some racial contribution since I’m Asian, and they were all either Indian or Caucasian. But I knew it was mostly because I was the least attractive person in the group.

Everyday at interval time I would sit there with friends and yet, feel lonelier than ever. I would be envious of how attractive all my friends were, how I’m so out of place.

Once, a boy I had a crush on came up to me out of the blue. “Hey Alicia!”

“Hi!”

“You’re pretty. Pretty UGLY!”

And with that he ran off. I never felt worse in my entire life. Even though the information wasn’t surprising to me. It hurt a lot. It was a huge cause of depression for me.

Everyone in my class was superficial and they always avoided me and never talked to me or cheered for me in Physical Education, when it was my turn to bat or sprint. I was disconnected to them by some barrier which was so obvious, even though they would still deny it if I’d brought it up. It was an inescapable prejudice.

Each day I would feel numb. In the corridors I would keep my eyes to the floor because I felt ugly. I was the best student at many subjects but teachers always favoured my more attractive friend. In fact, everyone did. They didn’t see the kindness and caring traits I had and the fact that I never said anything bad about anyone, unlike all my peers. All they saw was a girl with an unfashionable fringe, chubby face and thick legs.

I got used to it. I survived the year. All the subtlely hurtful things every day merged into one dull, vague, numb pain. I hated looking at myself in the mirror. I hated going outside, where people would only stare or pretend not to see me. Where my classmates would talk to me and then talk about me in a negative way to their friends. I was so tired about feeling judged every day.

Late last year at 15, I decided to exercise more. After 2 months, I’d lost a lot of weight and my legs became skinnier and so did my face. I looked better in the mirror and in photos. My face glowed. Miraculously, I realised that I was attractive.

This year, the difference was huge. A heap more people talked to me. Teachers who previously don’t acknowledge me said hello in the hallways. The same friends who excluded me suddenly became nicer to me. The same superficial people in my class began talking to me and laughing with me, rather than talking behind my back and hiding disgust in the times they felt obligated to talk to me.

But I was still the same. I talked the same and did the same things I would have done when I was less attractive. But nobody noticed because I was attractive, and to them talking to an attractive person was enough. I went from not very attractive to “beautiful inside and out.”

My confidence skyrocketed and I felt for the first time for many years, happy to be at school. I looked at people in the corridors and often they’d say hello and smile. When walking home, passerbys would smile instead of pretending they didn’t see me. It was strange knowing people liked me. The boys started noticing me too.

It was great. I felt transformed. I felt naturally happier but beneath all that, I knew the truth. I was still the same underneath. It taught me human behaviour regarding appearances.

Yes, appearance is important.

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